Family Law lives in the clash of Primary Wants (safety, connection, control) of the parties and players involved in family-related litigation. Understanding and assessing Primary Wants is key to balancing power, achieving a "fair" outcome, and reaching a durable resolution. Neurodiversity adds another layer of challenge to balancing Primary Wants, since those wants present differently in neuro-divergent individuals. Neurodiversity can manifest in parents, children, even attorneys and other professionals involved with the litigation process. This presentation explores how Primary Wants manifest differently in various frequently-experienced neuro-divergent family law scenarios. The presentation suggests strategies to understand, work with, and even capitalize on neuro-divergent manifestations of Primary Wants to help parties reach a more balanced, "fair" and durable Family Law outcome. Learning Objectives: 1. Recognize and understand Primary Wants (safety, connection, control) in context of family systems and family-involved litigation. 2. Recognize and understand how neuro-divergence (whether in parents, children, professionals, or support personnel) impacts the manifestation of Primary Wants and how that impact in turn effects the family system and core aspects of the litigation process. 3. Explore how court-involved professionals (attorneys, mediators, judges, GALs, Special Masters) can address Primary Wants in neuro-divergent contexts to help balance wants among stake holders leading to increased individual empowerment and improved long-term stability in family systems.